Brent's mom wants to throw us an engagement party, which could include just our friends or our friends and some of their friends. Should we take her up on the offer?
My first thought is yes...however there a couple of factors to consider. If you do decide to take her up on the offer, I think you have to invite their friends. Most likely they will be invited to the wedding (I assume) and they would want to feel included in most of the festivities you have to offer - i.e., showers. It just goes with the territory of having parents and family friends and knowing you have to include people who you may have met only once.
If you want to have an engagement party and don't want to include those people, then you'll probably just have to throw it yourself. That way you get to remain in control of the guest list, which allows you to eliminate any person you don't want to invite.
I agree with Tori - most showers thrown by a family member (or soon-to-be family member) have an unspoken "rule" that they will invite their friends. It is as much a celebration for them as it is for you. It is not uncommon for brides to have 2 showers - one thrown by a family member and one thrown by the maid-of-honor and/or bridesmaids. If this is the case for you, I would say, keep the one thrown by Brent's mother more about family and her friends (and your Mom's too). And you can have a more intimate shower with your friends thrown by your friends. Hope that made sense :). This will eliminate any potential awkwardness during the party for mingling of different generations, but also won't hurt your future mother-in-law's feelings by allowing her to show you how much she wants to welcome you to her family.
My first thought is yes...however there a couple of factors to consider. If you do decide to take her up on the offer, I think you have to invite their friends. Most likely they will be invited to the wedding (I assume) and they would want to feel included in most of the festivities you have to offer - i.e., showers. It just goes with the territory of having parents and family friends and knowing you have to include people who you may have met only once.
ReplyDeleteIf you want to have an engagement party and don't want to include those people, then you'll probably just have to throw it yourself. That way you get to remain in control of the guest list, which allows you to eliminate any person you don't want to invite.
That's my two cents...tori
Fabulous insight, Tori. THANKS! :-)
ReplyDeleteI agree with Tori - most showers thrown by a family member (or soon-to-be family member) have an unspoken "rule" that they will invite their friends. It is as much a celebration for them as it is for you. It is not uncommon for brides to have 2 showers - one thrown by a family member and one thrown by the maid-of-honor and/or bridesmaids. If this is the case for you, I would say, keep the one thrown by Brent's mother more about family and her friends (and your Mom's too). And you can have a more intimate shower with your friends thrown by your friends. Hope that made sense :). This will eliminate any potential awkwardness during the party for mingling of different generations, but also won't hurt your future mother-in-law's feelings by allowing her to show you how much she wants to welcome you to her family.
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