Yesterday was my last day at work until April 24 as I get ready for my wedding and honeymoon. Andrea, one of my bridesmaids and oldest friends (we've known each other since we were 4), arrived from Viriginia last night, so I'm very thankful to have her company (and sanity) during these last fews days before the wedding. THREE DAYS LEFT! YIPPEE!
I thought I'd take this opportunity to open up the floor to my married readers -- not that it was ever closed, mind you. Any words of wisdom for me before I walk down the aisle? I was talking to one of my writers at work yesterday and he said that the one piece of advice he kept in mind during his first year of marriage was, "Keep scrambling for higher ground." I got quite a kick out of that and it's probably something I won't forget.
"What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what lives within us." - Anonymous
My advice at first is related to the wedding. First, if you are a crier (like me) give yourself permission on the day before to cry all you want to. Don't try to hold it back. That really helped me on the day of the wedding. I definitely got teary at moments, but never just bawled like I thought I would.
ReplyDeleteSecond, try to take the time to look around and take it all in the day of the wedding. It'll go by so fast so try to make sure you remember everything you can.
As for marriage itself, the first year is hard. So when you find yourself POd beyond belief, pull out that wedding album or DVD and remind yourself of how you felt on your wedding day. That always dissolved my anger very quickly.
Have a wonderful time! I can't wait to hear all the details and see the pictures. I can imagine what a beautiful bride you will be. Congratulations!
Virginia, represent! hehe
ReplyDeleteI'll e-mail you, because I'm afraid I'd write a novel here regarding this subject.
ReplyDeleteEnjoy the day...don't stress over the details...you'll want to remember how wonderful it was when you have your first "old married couple" fight. ;-)
ReplyDeleteAs for marriage, remember to keep your individuality and not just become one half of a couple. :-) I don't think you'll have any problems with that.
You guys are so happy already; marriage will make it that much better!
Best wishes!
I'm a new reader for your blog ( couple weeks - from Quarter Life Crisis )
ReplyDeleteMy advice for you and your awesome hubby to be (he's totally fantastic by the way - if you want to clone him, let us single women know ok? *Grin*)
Never go to bed upset, ever!
Keep your sense of humor. Be able to laugh at yourself and laugh together, often. It can really help during the rougher times. Best wishes for Saturday! I'm sure it will be wonderful. I have no
ReplyDelete'advice' for that as I eloped in Vegas 11 years ago!
First of all, having a Virginian there is a must! Everyone knows that Virginia is for Lovers!!!
ReplyDeleteSecond, both of you please realize that marriages grow and change just like humans do... don't expect every year to be like the first couple "honeymoon" years. Ride out the hard times and enjoy the good times. Stick with it; marriage is work, but is worth it.
Best wishes to you both!
I am so excited for you! Have a wonderful wedding and honeymoon!
ReplyDeletesomeone gave me this advice on my wedding day: look around you and take little photographs in your mind of the entire day. what is the morning like? are there clouds? (hopefully no rain.) what about the afternoon? is the sun hot? is it windy? how does the air smell? and at your wedding: what do you see when you are walking down the aisle? at the reception, who is making you laugh? what makes you cry? try to take in as much with all senses as you can and these images will carry you through good and bad. oh. and laugh. a lot. oh! and get someone to make you a picnic basket full of dinner or snacks and wine and put it in your room. everyone says that you will be starved and you will be.
ReplyDeletebest wishes on this happiest of occasions.
Congrats and best wishes on your wedding tomorrow! Just remember to stop and take it all in right before you walk down the aisle. Also, I agree about having some pack you some food/picnic basket to take with you. I only had a few bites of food during the reception. I can't wait to hear all about it!!
ReplyDeleteHi Nanette. Seeing as I have absolutely no experience with getting married, I have no words of wisdom for you. However, I do want to wish you a wonderful day (sans rain) and a lovely honeymoon. Enjoy yourselves!
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