Monday, February 16, 2009

She works hard for the money

The final post of answers to questions is like an albatross around my neck. Not a bad one, though! More like a totally cute designer albatross that I was secretly hoping for, received and then had no time to take it to the tailor for a fitting. My other issue is that I'm so long-winded -- in person and in writing -- that I can't keep my answers short. Each response could be a post in itself.

Someday I'll finish, and it'll be glorious.

I've been busy soaking up all my time with Em as my maternity leave comes to an end tomorrow. It's been such a fast 4 1/2 months, yet I can't remember what it was like without her.

I'm ready, I think.

And I feel really good about our daycare situation, despite some hiccups and a last-minute switch. (More on that in an upcoming post.)

We did a daycare warm-up last week. On Tuesday my plan had been to hang out there with her, just to let Em know that Mommy was totally happy there so she should be, too. Epic fail. I sort of stood back while the daycare provider played with Em. My baby girl was pissed that I was there and not playing with her. I've never heard her cry so hard. Talking SOBS here, people. I put on a happy face, but it was tough. Wednesday-Friday she hung out there a few hours each day, sans Mommy, to get used to the daycare provider while I ran errands. Much, much better. She was happy and seemed to be adjusting nicely. Took bottles with no issue, and gave me big beaming smiles upon my arrival.

I won't lie - I've shed some tears, including some just before I started this post when I received two really sweet emails from two really sweet friends wishing me luck for my return to the workforce.

It's tough to think about someone else spending their days with our sweet girl. But it's what has to happen at this point in time. I need to work, and I do want to work (sorta). As always, I'm optimistic. She'll be just fine, as will I.

"I give you a simple, managerial suggestion and get back the second half of a Judy Blume novel." - Jack, 30 Rock

21 comments:

  1. I haven't checked any blogs in a while but I knew what tomorrow is for you so I had to check in. Take it from me - you will be fine! It's great you did some warm-ups last week... and you will adjust beautifully. I will be thinking about you tomorrow!!

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  2. Good luck! You'll do wonderfully!

    Kelly

    Kfigueroa7@yahoo.com

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  3. She will be Fine, Nanette!! And think of it This Way -- you are actually doing something Good for her! Before you know it, she will be 21 and you want her Out Of The House anyhow.

    xoxo,
    TDR

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  4. Good luck tomorrow. I hope not too many more tears are shed.

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  5. Knowing your personality, I think you'll both do great! A lot of my co-workers have a *really* hard time, crying all day & running back and forth to the daycare. One returned today though and she did great. Attitude-wise, I think the two of you are a lot a like.

    And not that you won't shed a tear or two...that's normal and everyone will understand. Good luck!

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  6. Good luck! I think you and Em will both do just fine.

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  7. No crying because of me, please!!!

    I've been there. Every day, leaving her will get easier. I promise.

    Hugs!

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  8. Good luck on your first day back!

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  9. I WILL be fine. Definitely. Good luck!

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  10. When I left my son at daycare for the first time I just sobbed and sobbed the entire way to work. But he just loved it. I wasn't sure how I felt about going back to work until I was actually there. And I as much as I enjoy being with my son, I also enjoy working. It will get easier and easier.

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  11. Nanette,
    Good morning! I have been reading your blog for about 6 months now and really enjoy it. Only because no one else is mentioning it I feel compelled to ask, are you sure you really have to go back to work? FInancially after the cost of daycare, commutes, work lunches, and clothes, how much are you really ahead? I don't want to make you feel bad about your decision to return to the workforce, and you have probably thought about this, but another option is to stay home until your baby is ready for school, it isn't a very long stretch of time at all.

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  12. Hey Girl! You've got my support 100%! Believe me, it's still hard after the weekends to drop A off at daycare, but she loves it and has a fun day- it's all worth it, and it'll be all good!

    Enjoy your first week back at work!

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  13. I worked in daycare for 5 years in the infant room. If it helps at all, when the parents were there for the introduction to daycare, the babies always "put on a show" that vanished the minute the parents were out of sight. If you're happy with your provider, Em will be too, but for such new little people, they sure know how to work their parents' heartstrings. =) Hang in there!

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  14. i know that this is tough - i did it with the teen back in the day. but considering your last paragraph, i think it will be good for both of you. it'll be hard in the beginning, i won't lie to you, but when you're back in the swing of things and enjoying being back at work amongst grownups, it'll just fall into place.

    keep us posted!

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  15. aw good luck nanette! hope today is going wonderously. :)

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  16. All of you will be just fine! Like most things, it'll just take a short while to adjust. I'll be wishing you all the best!

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  17. I've been thinking about you today! I'm sure Em will be fine. And so will you. Hope your first day back is a good one so far and Em has made lots o' friends. :)

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  18. Oh my gosh, good luck. After 10 months it looks as though I will be going back to work too... EEK. We will be going through it together.

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  19. I'm sure you can find a crappy albatross necklace on ebay.

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  20. oh man, i can't imagine how you must feel about that.. I always think about that sort of stuff (more than actually having kids) I could watch many oprah eps over this topic!!!

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  21. Hi,
    This post tugged at my heartstrings- esp since I'm going through something similar (will be going back to work in several weeks).

    I'm so glad the DayCare seems to be working out for you and Em. That's fabulous that it's so close to your work so that you can visit & nurse during the day. Would love to hear how you found this gem.

    Anyway, best wishes for a smooth transition back to the workforce.

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