Thursday, October 25, 2012

Down South

Mid-last week Em and I flew down to California. Part of it was to see my best friend, Shelby, and her family during their vacation there.

We started our trip in Central California, with my mom and also with Shelby and family.

The last time Em and I saw them was mid-2010. My, how they've grown!



Shelby's niece was also there. It was so fun to see all these 4-year-olds play together, particularly since their mamas all grew up together. Don't the three of them look like they could be part of a triplet set? (GAH! Three times the cuteness, three times the trouble!)

Last time we saw Shelby, she was about to give birth to her second son, not pictured below since he was napping. This time she got to see me in all my 25-week pregnancy glory. 
Me and Nanette and some of our kids

Timing for this trip worked out well, although it was booked last-minute. In addition to seeing my best friend, Em and I went to see my grandfather, my dad's dad, whom we call Pop-Pop. A few months ago I got word that he wasn't doing so well and that he's opted out of dialysis for his failing kidneys for quality of life, which at 82-years-old does make some sense. His prognosis a few months ago was that he had about six months left, making our trip down to see him on the Central Coast all the more important. 

Em met my Pop-Pop once before, a couple years ago. This time, though, she was much more interactive. They played together and he was thrilled to see her imagination in action. 

Em & my Pop-Pop

He said that she reminded him of me so much at that age, and he complimented me numerous times on my parenting skills and how he could tell I was a good mom. He was an important part of my life growing up, so his approval means the world to me. 

I was really emotional when I first heard his health news, and I was worried that I wouldn't be able to hold it together during this visit, especially with raging pregnancy hormones. (He was able to feel Mimi's kicks, by the way, which we all loved.) But I did ok. Despite his health woes, he's so lively and it was just too hard to fathom that it could be the last time I see him. 

I don't like imagining a world without my Pop-Pop. 



  1. Aww... every time I visit my grandparents' in So. Cal, I always think it may be the last time I see my grandfather. It's such a tough thing to think about.

  2. She's grown up so much! Glad you had a great visit.

  3. I'm so glad you got to see him. Lots of love xoxoxo

  4. What a "circle of life" trip you had - from giggling 4 year olds to your Pop-Pop's connection with Em & Mimi. Sharing such wonderful influences and important parts of your childhood with Em must have been so special. I'm glad you got the chance to do it and you'll always have these wonderful memories to remember even after Pop-Pop has gone to a better place.

  5. Oh, dialysis. My mom was on it for years and it was so hard on her body. I can definitely understand why he would choose quality of life vs. dialysis. And, if it's of any comfort to know, kidney failure is a peaceful way to go to the next world. My mom just fell asleep - no pain.

    And being able to say goodbye is a blessing, too.

  6. Those kids could be triplets!

    And, so glad you two got to go visit your Grandfather.

  7. I'm so glad that you had a chance to spend some quality time with your grandpa and that he got a chance to play with Em and feel Mimi. I am sure that meant the world to him. I hope you get to see him again. Losing loved ones is so very, very hard. I'm glad that you have had him this long though--it sounds like you have given each other a lot of joy.

  8. Looks like such a fun family vacation. It's amazing how fast kids do grow :)